Preparing the Bride

In the past, I wasn’t the biggest fan of weddings. As a child I went to weddings with my family and a couple times in my “later years” I had the privilege of playing music for the weddings of close family members or friends. But I never was too enthralled with them. I enjoyed the food though, and if I have enough mental capacity to remember any of the specific weddings I attended, I literally can tell you what food or punch almost every one of them served: Chicken enchiladas, pork roast, Famous Dave’s, grape punch with vanilla ice cream- to name a few.

_MG_9903But in the past couple years I started to enjoy weddings more. Part of it is the fact that several of my friends have gotten married, and it’s exciting to see them begin a new stage of their lives. Part of it is the opportunity I’ve had to photograph the weddings for several friends. Yes, it’s extremely stressful, but it’s also fun to preserve those precious memories for other people.

Having attended two weddings in the last two weeks, I suddenly found a new reason to absolutely love weddings: They symbolize the relationship that exists between Christ and the redeemed!

Regardless of how happy I am for my friends when I attend their weddings, it’s even more exciting for me to look past them and remember that someday I will take part in the largest wedding celebration of all time at the marriage of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6-9). In the words of Fanny Crosby, “O what a foretaste of glory divine!”

Last Saturday I photographed the wedding of a good friend from school, and it was one of the best experiences ever. Everyone was so easy to work with- groom, bride, wedding planner, both families- and it just made my job that much more enjoyable because I could accomplish what I wanted to do as a photographer. I even had a couple friends who volunteered to help me, and I assigned them to take more pictures for me.

One of those was the sister of the groom, and she took several pictures of the bride and the bridesmaids as they got ready. Meanwhile, I was at another location talking with the groomsmen and eating fried chicken for breakfast (which, by the way, was very tasty).

IMG_1128I’ve noticed a trend at the weddings I’ve photographed. The guys get ready by themselves and take about 10-20 minutes to do so. The girls all help each other get ready, and they take at least an hour to do so. If you know anything about weddings, you know this is the norm, at least for American weddings. I don’t know what everyone else does.

Anyway, as I was driving home last Saturday night, I thought about all the work that goes into preparing the bride for the ceremony. Then I realized, “Hey! That’s what I’m doing! I’m preparing the bride for her husband!”

Think about it. If the Christ is the groom and the bride is believers, any and every effort to win people to Christ and prepare people for heaven is also prep work for the big wedding day! Now, obviously, it’s more than that, but it’s no less than that either.

Every believer should strive to be ready for that day when Christ will return for us. Jesus said in John 14:3, “And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.” If you study John 14 in-depth, you will discover that the context is deeply rooted in the Jewish wedding culture.

Furthermore, every believer should seek out the lost and point them to Christ. Even more so, if I want to plant local churches, I should put an extra effort into reaching the unsaved. By planting churches we are preparing the bride for the Lamb, her Savior!

What a long, painstaking process. But how do those brides look when they walk down the aisle? Beautiful. Breath-taking. Heart-stopping. What does that mean? The process is worth it in the end. The rewards are worth the effort.

Especially for Jesus, who alone makes it possible for the Bride to approach him.

Just Slow Down…God Is in No Hurry

One of my weaknesses is my tendency to do things slowly.

I like slow. I like deliberate. I like to think about what I’m doing and enjoy the moment.

When I worked at IRBC, I loved my job as the photographer because I was never in a rush to be anywhere after meals. I could sit down and eat for 50 minutes. Dining hall girls were gone after 15 minutes, dishroom guys were gone after 22, and lifeguards departed around the 30-minute mark. I’d eat until I got lonely and then I’d leave. Being given 20 minutes to eat as Contender last year was so painful.

Speed Limit 14When I took exams in college, I always used the full hour, carefully thinking through each answer and re-checking them all at the end. I never could figure out how people finished exams in 25 minutes.

When I’m driving, I drive the speed limit or a little under when I have time to spare. I like looking out my windows and observing everything and everyone as I travel.

But being slow also lends to procrastination and a failure to show up on time for various events. It’s also really hard to do 1,600 pages of reading and write 20-page papers in seminary when you do everything slowly. Obviously, these are things I need to address and seek to improve.

Nevertheless, I have learned that the adage, “Haste makes waste,” is often true. In the past I have done many things quickly and overly ambitiously only to experience wasted time, energy, and resources. That’s one of the reasons I tend to take my time today when I do things.

So although being slow is a weakness, I think it’s also a strength. Obviously, almost any strength can also be a weakness when taken to an extreme.

God has especially used the last 7 years to remind me that He also is in no rush. After all, God literally exists outside time because He created it, and He has complete control over it.

2 Peter 3:8 says, “But beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.”

Imagine if time was like that for us. Imagine if only one hour was like a single minute to you. Every restaurant would be a fast-food restaurant!

But in our fast-paced society with fast food, Amazon Prime, and 4G data, some things still take time. A LOT of time (at least from our perspective).

After graduating from high school, I took a year of online college classes before attended Faith Baptist Bible College. While most of my friends went off to college right away, I stayed home. It’s a decision I don’t regret, and God used that year at home to provide me with different ministry opportunities I otherwise would not have had.

In my blog post, “Sports at a Bible College? Why? – Part 1,” I explained why I chose not to play soccer during my first year at Faith, even though I really love sport.

GraduationEven though I transferred 43 hours of college credit into Faith, I still took four full years of college classes there before graduating with my bachelor’s degree. Why? Because there were several other classes that I knew would benefit me, even though they were not in my program (Pastoral Studies). In fact, I was only two classes away from getting a music minor because I took so many music classes.

Whereas most of my classmates graduated and went directly into the workplace or full-time ministry, I stayed behind with a few others to take three years of seminary. Why? Because I believe I will be best equipped to study and disseminate the gospel in my life and ministry by receiving an additional three years of quality Bible training.

Next week will be my half-birthday, marking 25 1/2 years since my birth, and unlike many of my peers, I’m still single. In fact, I attended a wedding of a good friend last weekend, and I will photograph the wedding of another good friend this upcoming weekend, and both of them are younger than me. Several of my friends my age or younger already have one or two children.

Finally, I believe God wants me to plant churches in the US, a career that is not glamorous. From what I have learned from others and am now experiencing in my internship here in Bennington, NE, church planting is extremely hard work, and often the results come slowly. If I really want to do this long-term, it literally will be long-term.

Most churches these days don’t grow like weeds…they grow like cacti in the middle of a desert.

However, even though my life is short (James 4:14), I am encouraged to know that God has a plan for me, and if He takes His time to accomplish His will in me, I would be foolish to rush ahead of Him (Proverbs 16:9).

George Muller of Bristol by Arthur T. PiersonRight now I am fascinated by the topic of prayer, and I decided to read about George Muller, a great man of prayer. I am reading Dr. Arthur T. Pierson’s George Muller of Bristol. Published in 1899 shortly after Muller’s death, it’s a great biography, written with the help of Muller’s son-in-law, James Wright. You can read it for free online, and you can also download it for free in Kindle format from Amazon.

Yesterday I came across this quote from Pierson in the second paragraph of chapter three: “He who would work with God must first wait on Him and wait for Him, and that all undue haste in such a matter is worse than waste. He who kept Moses waiting forty years before He sent him to lead out captive Israel, who withdrew Saul of Tarsus three years into Arabia before he sent him as an apostle to the nations, and who left even His own Son thirty years in obscurity before His manifestation as Messiah – this God is in no hurry to put other servants at work. He says to all impatient souls: ‘My time is not yet full come, but your time is always ready'” (Pierson, 25).

Wow.

Forty years of preparation for Moses in addition to forty years even before that.

Three years for Saul, a man already well-educated in the scriptures.

Thirty years for Christ, God in the flesh.

People often ask me what I want to do with my life and when. People often ask me when I’m going to get married and to who. I joke with people at FBBC&TS about how old I am compared to all the students fresh out of high school.

25 years old…what am I waiting for? The answer: God. Why? Because He’s in no hurry.

God has given me peace about where I am and what I’m doing, so I am content.

If you’re trying to rush God on anything, just slow down, and let Him take His time because it’s literally his time. One thousand years to him is only like a day. Perhaps He wants only a few more seconds before doing exactly what He plans to do.

“So teach us to number our days, That we may gain a heart of wisdom.” – Psalm 90:12