A Year of Questions, Part 5: “Where Do You Live?”

Ah yes, the popular question that has an ever-changing answer. In fact, sometimes the answer is simply, “Good question,” because I do not always know where I live.

Log Cabin HomeSince January 2015, I have moved 8 times. Yep, you read that correctly. In the last 35 months, I have moved my “living” location 8 different times. I need to qualify that situation though by mentioning that I am also thankful for the generosity of 7 different individuals or families who have allowed me to live in their houses.

Since January 2015, I have lived in Bondurant (IA), Ankeny (IA), Omaha (NE), Bennington (NE), Mason City (IA), Cottage Grove (MN), and Inver Grove Heights (MN).

The reasons for the moves are sundry and diverse. Four of them are related to changes in my school or work status. Three of them are the result of the owners selling their houses and moving somewhere else. The other move was intended to put me closer to my area of ministry.

So I have lots of experience moving, adjusting to new accommodations, living in basements (all of them were nice basements, by the way), and cleaning someone else’s house. Oh, and I also know how to keep my space tidy and be ready to leave the house at any moment so that a potential home-buyer can come look at it…I have done that a couple dozen times probably.

Over the last 35 months, the longest I have lived in a single place was 13 months. Yeah, I’m quite amazed too! In fact, this summer, I remarked to a friend that I had actually lived in a single place for longer than nine months for the first time since 2009.

Well, I spoke too soon…it was shortly thereafter that I found out I would need to move again…a move that took place this last weekend!

For the last 13 months, I had the privilege of living on the lower level of my pastor’s home. It was an extremely convenient arrangement, allowing me to save money, enjoy a comfortable place, and live close to our church’s property.

New HouseAs of last week, I live in Inver Grove Heights. It’s quite a bit farther away than the first house, but it’s also a comfortable place that allows me to save money. On the plus side, I now live closer to Minneapolis and St. Paul, so I have a shorter drive anytime I need to do something in either of those two cities.

When I first found out in July that I needed to find a new place to live, I started looking at apartments in the area. What a blessing it is to say that I have never needed to search for an apartment before! So that was a new experience. But all the options were quite expensive, and I quickly discovered that it would cost only a little more to buy a house and pay a mortgage.

So I started looking at townhomes, and it wasn’t long before I found a suitable one that I thought I could afford. I went to a bank to get pre-approved for a loan, but I had some difficulty providing them with all the paperwork they needed, so the process was delayed.

Meanwhile, I had a two-week trip to the East Coast coming up, and I failed to get all the arrangements in place before I left. So I told my realtor and my bank that everything would have to be put on hold until I returned.

I had barely begun my trip when I received a text from my realtor saying that the house I wanted had sold to another bidder. That was kinda sad, but those sorrows were quickly erased when she texted a few days later about another townhome in the same complex that had just listed. It was nicer and they were asking a little less! I told her I was interested, but I would have to wait until I returned to Minnesota to do anything about it.

Well, my trip came to a close, and as I was boarding one of my return flights, I received a text from one of the couples from my church. They were friends with another Christian couple that had permanently moved away but was not ready to sell their house here. They are only keeping their house so that they can periodically come back and visit their parents who are still living in the area.

However, this couple wanted someone who could live in their house so it doesn’t sit empty. Well, God answered their prayers and mine, and I am now house-sitting indefinitely for a couple I still haven’t met 🙂 Because I’m technically doing them the favour, I do not have to pay rent, and I’m only paying for some of the utilities. They even have a neighbor who mows the lawn for them!

Imagine if God had made it easy to get the loan from the bank? Imagine if God had not timed that two-week trip the way he did? I would probably be living in a townhome with a large monthly payment right now! Instead, I am still saving money to go toward a future home while living in a house that is much nicer than any townhome I found.

My constantly changing living situation has taught me a few things. First, God keeps reminding me that he always has my best interests in mind, and he will always provide me with a place to live. Sometimes the timing is pretty tight, but he always follows through with something great!

Second, I think he’s using this to prepare me for my future ministry as a church planter. As a child, I hated moving. Unlike some people, all the moves I remember were local, taking place in Mason City, IA. But I did not like any of the three moves. I didn’t like change. But if God wants me to serve as a church planter, there’s a good chance that I’ll experience a few moves.

Finally, on a related note, God has reminded me that earth is not my final destination. None of the houses I live in will be my permanent home. So I have learned not to hold onto anything too tightly and to assume I won’t have it for long. It makes the process of giving things up that much easier.

Garage HomeRight now I’m learning to anticipate moving and to make the most of it. I have lived in small houses, large houses, ranch-style houses, a split-level house, a trailer, a church-owned property, and a log cabin. Oh, and one lesser-known fact is that I lived in a garage for over a week, sleeping in a hammock hung from the garage door brackets on the ceiling. The garage had heat, electricity, and Wi-Fi, so I was set! I even turned a puppet stand into a walk-in closet that worked quite nice.

Another benefit of constantly moving and staying at different places is that I can sleep almost anywhere. Beds are great, couches are nice, hammocks are my favourite, sleeping bags work just fine, and the floor doesn’t bother me. As long as I lay down physically tired, I can sleep almost anywhere!

Like Paul said in Philippians 4:11, “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content.”

A Year of Questions, Part 4: “Do You Cook for Yourself?”

What is the greatest challenge about living alone? Hmmm…now that I asked that question I am not really sure how I would answer it if someone else asked me. I will have to think about that. But in my experience, one of the things that people seem to be most concerned about me is whether or not I eat regularly.

One unique thing about me is that I am one of those people who can go a whole day without getting hungry. No, I don’t forget to eat, but if I don’t have a chance or if I simply don’t want to, I can go all day without food and not get hungry or pass out from weakness.

Omelet

So I often get asked, “How can you survive without eating anything?” These people spend time with me and get hungry and wonder why I’m doing fine.

But then there are the other people who eat with me once in awhile and look at me in bewilderment when I eat twice as much as them: “How do you eat so much without gaining weight? Where do you put it all?”

Let me tell you a story to help explain this oxymoronic situation. How often does the average grocery shopper go grocery shopping? Once a week? Once a day? Three times a day?

Broiled PotatoesI don’t know the answer, but based on my experience growing up with my family, it was probably closer to once a week. Definitely not three times a day! That only happened when we had guests over for supper and kept forgetting key ingredients for the main course…

Anyway, the point is that you stock up once and it lasts you for awhile.

Well, most of you probably have stomachs that go grocery shopping three times a day. I stock up once and it lasts me awhile 😉 But if you really want to know, yes, I eat more than once a week, and I almost always eat every day. But my portions are a lot smaller and I don’t have a set schedule.

Here’s the thing. I can think of four different purposes for eating. First, our bodies need fuel to stay active and healthy. Second, sometimes we need a break from the daily busyness of life, so eating is a good excuse to stop for awhile. Third, eating is for enjoyment- ice cream, chocolate, steak, bacon, etc. Fourth, eating is a social event, a time for families to spend time together, a time for friends to have fun, and an opportunity for Baptists to “fellowship.” (Can I get an “amen”?)

Outside of those reasons, there isn’t really any point in eating. So when I’m by myself, I only really have one reason to eat, and that’s to provide fuel and health for my body. Therefore, if I have plenty of energy and I’m feeling great, I don’t stop for a sit-down meal. I can wait until I’m at a social event to do that.

Yummy Ice CreamSometimes I eat for enjoyment too, but I try to limit my chocolate intake so that I don’t have to buy new clothes 🙂

Do I get so busy I forget to eat? Of course not. I grew up eating three meals a day, so it has become a habit. I think about it every day. Never does the evening come and I suddenly remember, “Hey, I forgot to eat!” If noon goes by and I didn’t eat lunch, it’s because I wasn’t hungry and consciously decided I could wait.

So that brings me to the question in the title. Do I cook for myself? Of course! I love cooking! Why do people seem to think that single guys don’t know how to cook or that they need to marry a good cook just so they can eat?

Look at the famous cooks in the United States…a lot of them are men. A lot of us know how to cook too!

EggrollsMy favourite food to prepare is eggrolls, and somehow that was one of the things I became known for when I was in college at Faith. But I also know how to cook other things, believe it or not, and I also know how to follow a recipe if it’s given to me.

When I lived at home and babysat my siblings, I cooked for them from time to time, and they got to experience food like they never had before! It was fun being creative and trying new things.

I still do that today when I need to. It doesn’t happen often because people give me so much food that I can’t eat all of it. Lately I have turned down a lot of food that was offered to me because I knew it would go bad before I had a chance to eat it.

That doesn’t include all the times I eat on trips, at restaurants, and at church events. Usually that food is all provided by other generous people (or airport lounges that I access for free).

Brasilian SteakhouseIn the past year, I can only think of about ten times I went to restaurants by myself. Two of those were at IHOP and Perkins for free pancake days. Two of those were at a Brasilian steakhouse. One of those was at a Chinese buffet. Rest of those were at various restaurants that gave me free birthday meals. So you can see where my priorities are when it comes to eating out 🙂

So the real question is whether or not I eat, and yes, I do. I eat very well. God has blessed me with an abundance of food, and I’m extremely grateful for it because I love food!

Fruit PlatterAs a side note, I rarely get sick. So I think that means I do a decent job of eating healthy? But I also drink a LOT of water. I take a 32oz. water bottle with me everywhere I go and drink water throughout the day. It became a habit during soccer season in college, and I think it has been good for me.

Speaking of cooking, I made a yummy omelet for myself on Saturday night, and it lasted for three full meals for me. I included the recipe here if you want it 😉

MinneSOta Cheeseburger Omelet

MinneSOta Cheeseburger OmeletIngredients:
-6 large eggs
-Two cooked hamburger patties
-One medium-sized tomato
-One green pepper
-One red pepper
-One cup shredded cheese
-2 tbsp barbecue sauce
-1 tbsp yellow mustard
-2 tbsp sweet relish
-1 tbsp breakfast syrup (omit if you don’t want the touch of sweetness)
-2 tbsp Caesar dressing
-3 strips of cooked bacon (unfortunately, I didn’t have this)

Start by preparing the cheeseburger mix. If you don’t already have two cooked hamburger patties, put a couple in the oven and broil them quick. Cube the hamburgers and mix in the barbecue sauce, mustard, relish, and breakfast syrup.

MinneSOta Cheeseburger Omelet Ingredients

Chop up the tomato, green pepper, red pepper, and bacon, but do not mix them at this point. Add one half of the chopped green peppers and red peppers and two-thirds of the bacon to the hamburger mix.

Crack open the eggs and discard the eggshells 😉 Beat the eggs and add one half of the remaining green and red peppers to the eggs. Pour them in a frying pan/skillet just like you do when you make any other old omelet. Cook on medium heat and flip to the other side to do the same.

Omelet FryingAfter you flip the omelet, sprinkle three-quarters of the shredded cheese on the omelet, spreading it out evenly. Next, add the hamburger mix, also spreading it out evenly over the entire omelet. After the cheese has melted and you deem the meat sufficiently heated, add the chopped tomato and then push all the hamburger mixture to the middle of the omelet.

Peach Mango SmoothieWrap up the omelet and place it on a large plate for consumption. Top off the presentation by drizzling the Caesar dressing on top, sprinkling the remaining cheese on top of that, and sprinkling the remaining peppers and bacon on top of that. If you saved some sliced tomatoes like I did, you can also lay those on top.

Serve with a large peach mango smoothie and enjoy!